From an anatomical standpoint, the heart is one powerful machine. It is considered the strongest muscle in the body, capable of pumping blood into the veins critical for survival. And yet, despite its power and strength, it is the frailest of them all. Why else does it easily break by the death of a loved one, betrayal or broken friendships?
When your heart is broken, do not be scared to grieve, for only when you go through the process of disbelief, denial and pain can you get through the most important part of healing: acceptance. Without acceptance, you can never have the courage to move on.
So how do you move on when the pain is tremendous, as if it is choking you with every breath you take? Mommy's advice is simple: Do what is necessary to free yourself from the gripping pain. If it's a lost love or broken friendship, cut any cudgels that may have imprisoned your heart and sanity. Throw away old photos, love letters and bury the memories. If it's the sudden death of a loved one, wail like a mourning orphan, until your eyes are completely dried of tears.
The hardest part about grief from the loss of someone close to our heart is that, despite knowing that life is temporary, we continue to cling on even to the smallest hope of mortality. But when you are older to grasp the deep meaning of life, you'll learn fast that this world is simply a transient hub—nothing more than a necessary stop-over to your final destination.
So I tell you, when your heart is broken—whether by a loss of a loved one or a betrayal of someone you care—find the courage to let your heart grieve so you may learn to accept. Numbing the pain is the coward's way.
Then, when the heart is finally able to let go and move on, cleanse it of its burden. The heart may be at times frail, but a shattered heart is stronger once healed, for it knows what it is capable of and the amount of pain it can withstand.